Chano8 recently interacted with one it’s followers and she shared her relationship dilemma.
My boyfriend of two years is not a bad man but he is a player I’m discovering. 6 months a go I discovered that he had been cheating on me with his workmate. I confronted him and he said he was sorry and that he wouldnt do it again.
I thought he had turned a new leaf. I forgave him but two weeks ago I found a woman’s underwear and condoms in his car. He says they were not his, but he acts fishy around me. He does not answer his phone in my presence and runs off to do it in private. He even carries it to the shower. I know he is at his games again, but I do not know where to start if I leave him. Confused and powerless”
Looking for answers to her problem, our relationship expert Miss Gloria had this to say.
This is a tricky one. First of all am sure there are possible explanations about the underwear and condoms in his car if you are the type of girl that sits around waiting for excuses.
Private calls could be work related etc., but the issue here is you don’t trust him. Usually when your partner cheats on you trust is the first thing you lose and it is hard to learn to trust someone who betrayed your trust.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater! If he did it once he will do it again. It is a physiological issue and something society now acknowledges as normal and many women these days are aware their men are sleeping around, but ignore it as long as she is provided for.
It comes down to your personal values and commitment to the relationship. If you are the kind of girl that believes she can’t be with a cheater then you should have walked away the first time he cheated, but because you decided to stay, you need work on your trust issues and fix your relationship. Set standards for yourself and stick by them.
Sometimes when you forgive a cheater it as good as letting him know it is ok to do it again. Don’t sit there feeling sorry for yourself wondering if you will meet someone else if you leave him. I don’t believe a man should make you feel confused and powerless, take charge of your life and decide to be happy. Just like the way you met this man you can find another. No need to settle in a relationship where you have to check his phone wonder where he is and what he is up to. That is not LOVE!
Let us know what you would do in the comment section below.